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The One Who Loves Me Or The One I Really Love?

Dear Jaz,

I heard your article from my friend, and decided to write you for an advise or insight about love. Which one is important, a person who loves me or a person i love most.

I’m still confuse with this as I came from a broken relationship. I have a partner for almost 10 years but unfortunately our relationship lately is in the rocks. She left me with our kids and she join with another person. Yes there is a 3rd party when I’ m on-board. It’s really a traumatic experience, when you love the most of this person who you thought will be on your side forever but gone because she finds happiness with another one. She told me that kind of reasoning really sucks.

I’m really afraid to jump in a new relationship but I realise that I need to start anew life with my children and I need to look a mother material for them. This decision should think many times and be wise.

Should I choose the one i love or the one who really loves me?

Help! And thank you for giving a time in my letter.

Yours truly,

Dear Chef,

I really appreciate you for being straightforward. There is no certain in this world but world is giving us a choice. What we will do, what we will eat, do we really need to walk or run, who do we love and a lot of things goes on everyday.

Your problem is common to the people who are in love. But the perspective will kicks-in on how do you want to see yourself with that person. Are you willing to sacrifice (your happiness) for her till the end to make her happy and satisfied? Or will you be selfish enough to care for your own happiness.

How do we feel if we choose the one who loves us? Will life be perfect? As they said, look for someone that you know, loves you more than you love her. Because she will do her best to make you happy. She will try to be your world and willing to sacrifice to be with you and your family. But you should not take this for granted.

Or how do we see ourselves if we choose the one we love most? Will life be perfect? Are you willing to give up everything for her? Will you do your best to make her happy? And for how long will you hold or love her?

If you can see, the answer depends on the character of the person. There is no perfect relationship but there are lots of possibilities to make it the partner and life you want it to be. The bottomline is on how will you compromise to each other. And love is not a one way thing, it should be two way. Communication is the key in all aspects of relationship. And being selfish will not help your relationship, you should be considerate enough on how your partner feels. And a lot of things to be consider, not only your feelings. You said you have children, you should prioritise them. You still have your life and career. Your family and your friends that surrounds you.

Whatever you choose if ‘kung mahal ka’ or ‘yung mahal mo’, you can say a little prayer that your decision will deserve for the happiness of both that will last forever.

Sending good vibes in your negative thoughts.

It’s me,



a simple person, who loves to eat, travel and compose some poems or write-ups.

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